Reluctance to give up work does not necessarily mean being a workaholic. There may be many reasons why we feel insecure, reluctant, or even afraid to quit our jobs at the end of each day. There are those who will not believe that this can be a “thing”; they can barely wait for the clock to arrive when they can finally walk through the door.
So why don’t some people want to quit their jobs?
The work environment is often familiar and routine, with the usual tasks that need to be performed every day. Despite the fact that we do not like our colleagues or work, we are used to tuning and what is expected of us. We can make jokes, have coffee and maybe even have lunch together. Staying longer, not wanting to leave on time can be good, especially when we are busy and busy with important work. We know and understand our role and can fly on autopilot, even when it causes stress and is not always comfortable.
When the house is tense, a difficult or chaotic job can seem like a place of order and balance. When life at home is unhappy, full of arguments or naughty children, we can find good reasons to stay at work rather than return home. When we don’t expect a warm welcome or we are particularly expected, it can be a relief to stay busy with something useful, especially when so many jobs are understaffed. In fact, a recent study found that one-third of employees worked overtime without paying 7 hours a week, and 1/14 did not take full leave last year.
Similarly, if the house is empty and lonely and has nothing to wait for to stay at work, this may be a more viable option. The prospect of starting to build a life and making new friends and interests can be overwhelming. When to start? When we are new to the area, recently divorced, divorced or survived, it can be difficult to keep everything together. There may be financial or confidence-building considerations that affect our ability or willingness to go out and communicate.
Sometimes it can be difficult to learn to trust others and build relationships on your own. At work, we have a clear role and status. We may have a position to keep; it informs others about who we are and why we are here. This is not the case in the “real world,” where people ask us questions about themselves and we risk being convicted, albeit officially, according to our answers. Disgust, rejection, dismissal or disinterest rarely happen at work the same way.
There are still those who struggle with FOMO, fear of missing out. If they do not work first or last, they may be concerned about what they lack, or are perceived as unemployed, insufficiently diligent, or perhaps even evading their responsibilities.
Some people suffer from imposter syndrome for fear that they are inadequate or incapacitated. They may be reluctant to sign up until they “recheck” for errors and make sure it is good enough. Sometimes you can spend hours checking and reviewing your work, so the thought of returning home can be very worrying.
In addition, there are concerns that if they are not at work, they will be asked to replace and respond to a question or request for information. Worrying that you will be found to be prone to mistakes or inefficiencies when you are not working can cause stress and cause fear to leave when others are still around.
If we are increasingly reluctant to leave work and return home, we may have to work on ourselves or risk more and more isolating ourselves from social life and existing and new relationships. Mastering the skills of working with different opinions and values, studying ourselves and growing up is a part of adult life, but requires constant effort and dedication.
Passing therapy to overcome negative thinking stereotypes can be a valuable step towards increasing self-confidence and self-esteem. Then we can gradually become more motivated to find people and groups that share common interests.